• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD guess at what normal is.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD have difficulty in following
a project through to
completion.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD lie when it would be just as
easy to tell the
truth.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD judge themselves
without mercy.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD have difficulty having fun.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD take themselves very seriously.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD have difficulty with
intimate
relationships.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD over-react to changes over
which they have no
control.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD constantly seek approval
and affirmation.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD feel that they are different
from other people.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD are either super responsible
or super
irresponsible.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD are extremely loyal even when
there is evidence
that the loyalty is undeserved.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD look for immediate rather than
deferred
gratification.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD lock themselves into a course
of action without
giving serious consideration to the possible consequences,
or before
considering alternate behaviors.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD seek tension and crisis and
then complain about
the results.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD avoid conflict or aggravate it;
rarely do they deal
with it.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD fear rejection and
abandonment, yet are
rejecting of others.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD fear failure, but sabotage
their own success.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD fear criticism and judgment,
yet criticize and
judge others.
• Adult children of
family dysfunction/ACFD manage time poorly and do
not set priorities
in a way that works efficiently for them.
In order to change,
adult children of family dysfunction/ACFD cannot use
history as an excuse
for continuing their behaviors. They learn to have no
regrets for what
might have been, for their experiences have shaped their
talents as well as
their defects of character. It is their responsibility to discover
their talents, to
build their self-esteem and to repair any damage done. They
will allow
themselves to feel their feelings, to accept them, and learn to
express them
appropriately. When they have begun those tasks, they will try
to let go of their
past and get on with the business of their life.
1. Keep your sharing
focused on your own thoughts and feelings. Limit your
sharing to three to
five minutes.
2. There will be NO
cross talk. Cross talk is when two individuals engage in
conversation,
excluding all others. Each person is free to express his or her
feelings without
interruptions.
3. We are here to
support one another, not “fix” one another.
4. Anonymity and
confidentiality are basic requirements. What is shared in the
group stays in the
group. The only exception is when someone threatens to
injure themselves or
others.
5. Offensive
language has no place in a Christ-centered recovery group.
